I can remember lining up along the wall of mirrors in my fourth grade ballet class, trying to concentrate on my pli?s, while worrying about the fact that my thighs were curvier than the girls down the bar from me. In sixth grade, I was the only girl in my class who would rather wear a tight sportsbra than an underwire, though I was also the only girl who actually had enough goodies to put into an underwire bra. I’ve never been unusually large, and nobody has ever intimated that I should lose a little weight, but nevertheless I’ve spent the majority of my life accutely aware of my curves, and trying to fight them.
I’ve learned a lot about selecting properly styled and structured clothing for my body-type, but it wasn’t until about two years ago, when reading about shapewear in an issue of Glamour magazine, that I actually thought about the merits of donning what I had considered to be antiquated undies. I mean, who wears girdles these days, right?
Well, here I am today actually preparing to preach to you the values of investing in some high quality shapewear. While I only wear full-torso shapewear about once or twice a week, I now can’t imagine not having them available in case of a fashion emergency. I’ve discovered I don’t need to worry so much about buttons on a dress gapping in the front, awkward lines signifying back chub around my bra-line, pesky muffin-top around the tops of my trousers, or even what to wear under that sheer blouse.

In the interest of helping sistas out, I’d like to share with you my top three shapewear items and how they’ve helped me come to peace with my curves as well as how they act as negotiator between my body and my clothing.
#1: Bali’s No Lines No Slip Panties
I suppose panties might not be considered shapewear, but I spent far too long holding onto my low-rise briefs and thin thongs trying to make them work with my increasingly high-waisted wardrobe. They just don’t. Proper panties help make your slacks, shorts, or fitted skirts look much nicer over your body. This particular pair is virtually invisible underneath my clothing, and doesn’t cling to my clothing’s fabric. I don’t have to worry about any extra chub creeping over the top elastic band, and I’ve never had them ride up, causing awkward lines to appear on my clothes.
#2: Flexee’s Sew Free Body Briefer
This was the first piece of shapewear I bought. Initially this item was meant to wear underneath my vintage dresses that were a little constricting in the front. I was uncomfortable with the creases that happened around my midsection, particularly under my bra. This smoothed out my torso, and even appeared to elongate my waist underneath the dresses. Now I even wear this underneath some shorts and trousers to soften the transition area between a fitted top and my bottoms.
#3 Flexee’s Wear Your Own Bra Firm Control Singlet
This one is the most recent shapewear addition to my arsenal. It works well with trousers that need shapewear, without causing a panty-line appearance. If I can’t wear #2 for that reason, this one is great for smoothing out my torso, hips, and also my bum. Even though I’m wearing extra clothing, I am often more comfortable wearing something like this underneath dresses in warmer months, because it prevents chaffing. You know what I’m talkin’ about.
You can find these items at most department stores, but I purchased mine at Kohl’s for a combined discount. (#1, #2, #3) Having curves is a wonderul, feminine thing, and shouldn’t be cause for shame. But if you also struggle with mediating the fight between your clothing and your body, shapewear can be a life changer.

